Why are women so suprised...

This is a question to all the ladies out there.

Is finding a man who is good with kids, sensitive, cooks, somewhat cleans, does laundry, holds a steady job, thinks of women as equals, and likes shopping (and isn't gay) such a hard thing?

My wifes friends are always in a sort of wonderment about how she found me, and where they 'can train a man to be like that'. Our great friend R (name withheld, thanks for reminding me of that Sig :) always jokes she wants to clone me to have "the perfect man".

Granted, I'm not perfect, I don't pretend to be. I tend to tune things out, my idea of cleaning is "hiding clutter", my temper sometimes gets the best of me, and in the mornings i tend to be a jackass, at least until my second cup of coffee. (I R NOT A MORNING PERSON).

Is it somehow wrong, in this advanced day and age, to expect the male of the species to cook at least half the meals? To take care of the kids at least half the time? To do the laundry and dishes? To share basic responsibility!